i want more awareness of lithromanticism. when talking about aromanticism and all of the orientations that fall beneath that umbrella it’s almost always entirely left out. i want to spread awareness of lithromanticism so that people actually KNOW WHAT IT IS and then we can avoid hurtful erasure that, from my own experience, occurs daily.

so. on that note, basically lithromanticism, as aforementioned, falls sort of underneath the category of aromanticism. however, unlike most aromantics, lithromantics generally tend to experience romantic attraction and a need to feel loved—until these feelings are reciprocated!!!!! upon this reciprocation, repulsion generally occurs.** there is a lot more to it than that and it varies from person to person, quite obviously, but that is the most basic definition of it imaginable. you can ask me if you have questions but i can really only speak from personal experience here—that’s how i experience lithromanticism.

as a lithromantic i feel hardly supported at all. when trying to discover my romantic orientation, i had to dig through countless forum posts and blogs until i finally found even a scarce mention of the identification. it shouldn’t have been so hard to discover any information about it. i shouldn’t have had to search so hard for that sense of belonging and a label that i could comfortably identify with. and now that i do identify that way i’m tired of people always leaving my identity out of most discussions pertaining to romantic orientation. i want to be recognized a little, at least within this community. that’s all. so please try to spread this around, that would mean a lot

***IMPORTANT: REVISED TO ADD that some lithromantics simply feel apathetic towards reciprocation and are indifferent. DEFINITELY NOT ALL experience repulsion. as i said, it varies from person to person!!



I needed to sort out some things for myself and decided to make a thing. These are just what I’ve gathered from my time as a human. If you think I got something wrong feel free to tell me. Please do not erase this caption.

In case the text is hard to read, this is what each one says:

Platonic attraction (orange): being or wanting to be friends with someone, wanting to hang out with someone in a non-romantic way, neither romantic nor sexual attraction to a person but still wanting to get to know them.

Aesthetic attraction (green): Finding someone pleasing to look at / attractive / “hot” / beautiful. That’s it. Not necessarily linked to any other type of attraction. (e.g. A straight girl thinking Emma Watson is very attractive because she is.)

Romantic attraction (pink): Being or wanting to be in love with someone, being or wanting to be romantic partners (not sexual), being or wanting to be in a committed relaitonship with someone.

Sexual Attraction (red): Being interested in sex with a person, wanting to have sex with a person, feeling sexual tension or arousal directed toward a person.

A person may feel any of these attractions in any combination that may or may not make sense or cause lots of frustration. For some people these feelings will only happen in groups, some people will feel each one separately, some people may not feel certain kinds of attraction at all. And that’s okay.

i’d add sensual attraction and remove “wanting to” from the definitions (because someone can want romance/sex without experiencing romantic/sexual attraction), but aside from that this is a nice, simplistic illustration. :)


It is so important to be more happy with yourself and less concerned with what others think. It can also be very difficult. >o<


you can be non-binary and still want to be referred to as he or she

you can be non-binary and still want to be someone’s girlfriend/boyfriend

you can be non-binary and be in a straight-passing relationship

you can be non-binary and want to refer to yourself with gendered language

there is no right way to be non-binary

your identity is perfect the way it is

don’t ever feel like you’re ~not queer enough~ because just by existing you are queer enough. 

» Romantic Orientations


Alloromantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction.

  • Heteroromantic: romantically attracted to people of another gender only.
  • Homoromantic: romantically attracted to people of the same gender only.
  • Biromantic: romantically attracted to two or more genders.
  • Panromantic: romantic attraction has no regard to gender.
  • Gynoromantic: romantically attracted to femininity
  • Androromantic: romantically attracted to masculinity

Aromantic: someone who does not experience romantic attraction.

  • Cupioromantic: does not experience romantic attraction, but still desires a romantic relationship.(previously kalosromantic)

Grayromantic: someone who is neither alloromantic nor aromantic, or someone who is between alloro and aro.(Also called gray-romantic, grayaromantic, gray-aromantic)

  • Akoiromantic: experiences romantic attraction, but does not wish for (or does not require) those feelings to be reciprocated. (Can be either akoiromantic or akoineromantic, and was previously called “lithromantic” but there were issues with that term)
  • Demiromantic: experiences romantic attraction only after forming a close bond.
  • Quoiromantic: is confused by romantic attraction, or cannot tell the difference between romantic and platonic attraction.(also called WTFromantic)
  • Recipromantic: does not experience romantic attraction until they know someone is interested in them first.
  • Idemromantic: experiences romantic and platonic attraction similarly or identically, but categorizes them into romantic or platonic based on factors other than the feelings themselves.(source)

A list of romantic orientations! I included all of the ones I could find, but I’m expecting the list to be either incomplete or flawed, so if you have any corrections, please let us know.

Also, if you know the source of a term and it isn’t included, drop us a message and we’ll add it. Thanks!

—Mod Kau


Have you seen the awesome diverse cover for hannahmosk's next book, NOT OTHERWISE SPECIFIED? Brown girl front and center. Here's the blurb:

Etta is tired of dealing with all of the labels and categories that seem so important to everyone else in her small Nebraska hometown.

Everywhere she turns, someone feels she’s too fringe for the fringe. Not gay enough for the Dykes, her ex-clique, thanks to a recent relationship with a boy; not tiny and white enough for ballet, her first passion; and not sick enough to look anorexic (partially thanks to recovery). Etta doesn’t fit anywhere— until she meets Bianca, the straight, white, Christian, and seriously sick girl in Etta’s therapy group. Both girls are auditioning for Brentwood, a prestigious New York theater academy that is so not Nebraska. Bianca seems like Etta’s salvation, but how can Etta be saved by a girl who needs saving herself? 

The latest powerful, original novel from Hannah Moskowitz is the story about living in and outside communities and stereotypes, and defining your own identity.

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In a recent episode of What Would You Do? filmed in Mississippi, the cameras roll as a same-sex couple shows a little PDA in a restaurant. The reactions are overwhelmingly horrific, but the last few minutes will provide at least an ounce of relief. If the video’s not working for you, check it out here


A Jihad For Love (2007)
Once upon a time, when Islam is under tremendous attack - from within and without - ‘A Jihad for Love’ is a daring documentary-filmed in twelve countries and nine languages. Muslim gay filmmaker Parvez Sharma has gone where the silence is strongest, filming with great risk in nations where government permission to make this film was not an option. A Jihad for Love is the first-ever feature-length documentary to explore the complex global intersections of Islam and homosexuality. With unprecedented access and depth, Sharma brings to light the hidden lives of gay and lesbian Muslims from countries like Iran, Pakistan, Egypt, Turkey, France, India, and South Africa. The majority of gay and lesbian Muslims must travel a lonely and often dangerous road. In many nations with a Muslim majority, laws based on Quranic interpretations are enforced by authorities to monitor, entrap, imprison, torture and even execute homosexuals. Even for those who migrate to Europe or North America and adopt Western personae of “gay,” the relative freedoms of new homelands are mitigated by persistent racial profiling and intensified state surveillance after the terrorist attacks in New York, London and Madrid. As a result, many gay and lesbian Muslims end up renouncing their religion. But the real-life characters of A Jihad for Love aren’t willing to abandon a faith they cherish despite its flaws. Instead, they struggle to reconcile their ardent belief with the innate reality of their being. The international chorus of gay and lesbian Muslims brought together by A Jihad for Love doesn’t seek to vilify or reject Islam, but rather negotiate a new relationship to it. In doing so, the film’s extraordinary characters point the way for all Muslims to move beyond the hostile, war-torn present, toward a more hopeful future. As one can imagine, it was a difficult decision for the subjects to participate in the film due to the violence they could face. However, those who have come forward to tell their stories feel this film is too important for 1.4 billion Muslims and non-Muslims around the world for them to say no. They are willing to take the risk in their quest to lay equal claim to their profoundly held faith. 

Stephen Fry: Out There

If you live in a cosy metropolitan bubble of tolerance – even if it is only recently cosy and tolerant – it’s easy to forget that it’s not like that everywhere. In Stephen Fry: Out There (BBC2) the asymmetrical English polymath is venturing outside to remind us. To explore the acceptance and non-acceptance of gay people, and to meet some splutteringly rabid homophobes.

Fry visits countries all over the world, from the UK and the US to Uganda, to Russia and Brazil to get a closer look at homosexual and homophobic culture in global society.

‘It’s interesting you use the word ‘normal’. I have a great interest in zoology. There are 480 species of animal that exhibit homosexual behaviour; but only one species of animal on earth that exhibits homophobic behaviour. So which is normal?’ - Stephen Fry, on being told homosexuality is not ‘normal’

Watch online on BBC iPlayer (Part 1, Part 2) or Youtube (Part 1, Part 2)


Facing a sex obsessed culture, a mountain of stereotypes and misconceptions, and a lack of social or scientific research, asexuals - people who experience no sexual attraction - struggle to claim their identity.

Trailer on Youtube

Watch online on Youtube


Faking It (2014-)
After numerous attempts of trying to be popular two best friends decide to come out as lesbians, which launches them to instant celebrity status. Seduced by their newfound fame, Karma and Amy decide to keep up their romantic ruse.

Glee (2009-)
A group of ambitious misfits try to escape the harsh realities of high school by joining a glee club, where they find strength, acceptance and, ultimately, their voice, while working to pursue dreams of their own.

Lost Girl (2010-)
Lost Girl focuses on the gorgeous and charismatic Bo, a supernatural being called a succubus who feeds on the energy of humans, sometimes with fatal results. Refusing to embrace her supernatural clan system and its rigid hierarchy, Bo is a renegade who takes up the fight for the underdog while searching for the truth about her own mysterious origins.

Looking (2014-)
The experiences of three close friends living and loving in modern-day San Francisco.

Modern Family (2009-)
Three different, but related families face trials and tribulations in their own uniquely comedic ways.

The New Normal (2012)
A single mother’s life as she becomes a surrogate for a gay couple.

Orange Is the New Black (2013-)
The story of Piper Chapman, a woman in her thirties who is sentenced to fifteen months in prison after being convicted of a decade-old crime of transporting money for her drug-dealing girlfriend.

Orphan Black (2013-)
A streetwise hustler is pulled into a compelling conspiracy after witnessing the suicide of a girl who looks just like her.

Shameless (2011-)
An alcoholic man lives in a perpetual stupor while his six children with whom he lives cope as best they can.

Teen Wolf (2011-)
A somewhat awkward teen is attacked by a werewolf and inherits the curse itself, as well as the enemies that come with it.

Queer As Folk (UK) (1999-2000)
Controversial drama which chronicles the lives of gay friends Stuart and Vince, and also the younger Nathan who is in love with Stuart.

Queer As Folk (US) (2000-2005)
The lives and loves of a group of gay friends living in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

Torchwood (2006-2011)

The members of the Torchwood Institute, a secret organization founded by the British Crown, fight to protect the Earth from extraterrestrial and supernatural threats.

Anonymous whispered: Hi! I don't know if tumblr ate my ask or if no one noticed it. I understand that you guys get a lot of asks, but I can't help asking again. I'm genderfluid, but lean more toward male. I look really feminine, are there any tips to looking more masculine? I don't want to take T or anything, though.


Jay says:


I rest my case.